Wednesday, December 16, 2009


THE FIRE

The effects of playing with matches affected me personally when I was five years old. My parents had gone to Santa Rosa to celebrate their 20th wedding anniversary with my father’s Uncle Chris and Aunt Anna Ketelsen. They were married the day after my folks’ wedding on August 4, 1929 and Dad had stood up with his Uncle Chris so it was fitting for them to celebrate their special day together. My oldest brothers, Robert and Leroy went with them and Paul and I stayed at home with Rachel Gomes who was our live-in care giver.

Paul was the most curious person I ever knew and had quite an investigative mind. At an early age, he could take apart a lawnmower and put it back together. In our two story home, we also had a basement which was finished off with six rooms used in my family’s business. At the back side of the basement, we had a laundry room with the old wringer style washing machine and shelves containing various products just waiting to be explored. As the story goes, Paul got a glass jar, filled it with water, struck a match and put it in the liquid and as one would suspect, the fire was extinguished. Then he repeated the experiment with a match in a jar of cleaning fluid. This time, the fire did not go out and soon the fluid got too hot for him to hold. He attempted to pour the fluid out into the wash tub but it got too hot for his hands and he dropped the jar. The fluid splattered onto us and we suffered 3rd degree burns on our legs. He had been taught in school about the drop and roll procedure to put out a fire, but all I knew to do was to cry for help. Rachel was reading a book out in the back yard and at first assumed that Paul was just teasing me but when she looked up and saw me, she immediately picked me up and ran up the back stairs and put me in the kitchen sink where she poured cold water on my burns. My friend and playmate, Joan Perry was with me and watched the experiment but escaped getting burned and skated home, about 4 houses down W Street, to tell her mother. Soon the sirens of the ambulance could be heard – I suppose Dorothy Perry was the one who called and we were both whisked off to the Sacramento County Hospital. As young as I was, almost 6, I was startled to see the ambulance go through a red light and then I reminded myself that they could do that.

I remember lying on a table and having a cool salve spread on my legs and having the hanging flesh cut away. My legs were burned below my knees and to some degree, on my thighs. My right arm was also burned (not as badly) and the thing for which we always gave thanks was the fact that I had been wearing a dress and the hem of my dress and my hair were singed.

My father often called his office to check for messages and when he called that day, he was told that his two children had been burned in a fire and that they were in the hospital. He did not know how badly we were burned or where and Mom later told us that the trip home was one spent in silence. I can imagine. Robert and Leroy were a little irritated that their visit with their cousins were cut short. Mom was also embarrassed when our picture appeared on the front page of our local newspaper – The Sacramento Union since they were away at the time and even though we were in good care, she thought it reflected badly on them.
Mom and Dad brought me a new red plaid dress on one of their visits and after our release from the hospital Dr. Binkley (who also had delivered me) came to our home to change our bandages. Another incident I remember centered on my mother being criticized for allowing me to wear slacks to church. It seems this woman didn't know I had been burned and Mom had me wear slacks, perhaps to hide the bandages. The other thing I strongly remember was being told that the scars would probably disappear by the time I was fourteen, but alas, I still have them to this day. Some kids are anxious to get their driver’s license – I was just waiting for the time when my scars would disappear.









Tim's Family - Shar, Danika, Savanna & Myah Melissa's Family-Ron, Hannah & Katy




Savanna shows off her turkey cookies Cousins Frank and Charley







Jennifer and Lauren


Our Family on Thanksgiving 2009








Our 2009 Christmas Letter...to all, and to all, a good night.

With the advent of technology and electronic communication, I almost feel like asking ‘What can be said that hasn’t already been said”? But wishing everyone a Merry Christmas and the best of times for the New Year never gets old.

All of our children are living in the same places – Sacramento area and Everett, WA. No new grandchildren, a new dog at Tim and Shar’s house and of course we still have at least four cats that come to our place for nourishment. Ben’s sister, Dobbie, is a blessing to our family.

We did some traveling this year. We went to Washington D.C. in January with Charley and Frank (my cousins) for the Presidential Inauguration. There is so much to see there and we met many friendly and happy people.

In July, we made what seems like an annual affair – going to Eugene, Oregon for a reunion with some of my schoolmates. We continued on north to spend a weekend with Steve and Harriett who will be living in Everett, WA for another year.

The River Cats was more fun this year. We worked part-time as ushers (Guest Services) and enjoyed that more than working in the gift shop which we had done for the two prior years. Ben got to see more ball games and I enjoyed working at a variety of gates, etc.

We checked out Reno’s new baseball stadium when the River Cats played them in July. We lost, but certainly enjoyed seeing their new park and relaxing in Reno..

Ben and his daughter Jennifer co-coached an under 10 Girls’ Soccer Team again this year. Lauren was on their team.

In September, my cousin Tom married Jennifer in the San Francisco Zoo. Check out my blog for further details: http://benoresther.blogspot.com/

The highlight of the fall was attending the two day Breeders’ Cup World Championship horse races in Arcadia, CA on November 6th and 7th. Zenyatta, a mare, surpassed all of the boys in the Classic Race to become the first mare in history to do so. Go Girls. Of course this was a dream come true for Ben to attend this internationally attended event.

Our plans include hosting Christmas brunch again this year. We enjoy having our family with us. Steve and Harriett had her family from Texas with them for Thanksgiving.

Our seven granddaughters range from 16 to 2 ½ and bring us joy as we watch them wind through their various stages. Somehow, being a grandparent is a second chance to enjoy these cute girls with our full attention and with fewer of life’s demands on us. Whether it’s playing softball, soccer, dance, drama, music or achieving honors at school, we are so thankful to be a part of all of it.

Let’s keep in touch. You are the hub of what makes our world go around.
(Facebook: Esther Lebeck Loveridge. E-mail: benoresther@sbcglobal.net)
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Friday, October 9, 2009

Along Route 66


Route 66 - Nice to be there

Attending "Legally Blonde" was very enjoyable and a nice way to spend my birthday. Of course I love being with our family and we got to do that the next evening as we gathered at Leatherby's for ice cream. Sue, my friend from junior high school joined us and all of our granddaughters were so cute. The following day, we had a visit from Don and George. Don was a schoolmate from CBA, our high school. Cousin Charley and Frank came for lunch too and in the evening, Don and George treated us to Mexican food and the following night we treated them to an Italian dinner. It was nice to have them park their RV in front of our house and spend some time with us. Then last night, we went to a reverse mortgage seminar (and free dinner at Marie Calendar's) with my brother Robert. Anyone have any experience pro or con with reverse mortgages? Well, I like the way Route 66 has taken me so far and look forward to another year with family and friends.

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

A Glimmer of Hope at Raley Field

A Glimmer of Hope at Raley Field

It all started one night while working at the River Cats game. I was working in Guest Services as an usher and was saying my usual "Thanks for coming out to Raley Field" to a couple as they were leaving the park when they handed me their tickets for the following day. They were season ticket holders but since the River Cats were winning the last day of the Division Championship Series against Tacoma, there would be no game the next day so the tickets would not be valid. The Glimmer started. I guess I could have put the tickets in the garbage, but thought, "what the heck", I'll see if they are still worth anything.

When I got to the Guest Services Office after the game, I nonchalantly asked what one could do If they had tickets for the next day? I was jokingly told they could be used for bookmarks! But then the glimmer increased. I was then told that they could actually be redeemed! Aha, I thought. Maybe I have something here. By this time, it was late and the box office was closed so I tucked them safely in my pocket and thought I'd continue my pursuit the next time I worked.

A week later The River Cats were playing Memphis for the PCL Championship. I worked on Friday and the River Cats had already lost two games in Memphis. Now they were on their home turf and that always helps but they'd have to sweep the next three games to secure their third PCL Championship in a row. I worked the first home game and on my break, I went to the box office to redeem the tickets. I was a little nervous because the process was taking longer than I thought. I mean, how long should it take to give me the twenty bucks? When the cashier handed me two more tickets for the game on the following day, I was disappointed. We were more than half way through the game in this series and Memphis was cleaning our clock. If we lost, then what would I have? The game continued and we never scored and lost the PCL Championship. Now, once again I held tickets for a game that wouldn't be played. Back to square one, but of course I had to work until the game was over and the crowd emptied from the park and by then the box office was closed.

Did I give up? Of course not. When one has a glimmer of hope, one continues until the hope is fulfilled or the glimmer is squelched. Now, I am thinking, there are no more games in the season so surely now, I will receive the rewards of my efforts and get the $20.

Last night, Raley Field threw a thank you party for the employees. Would the box office be open? You know, I'd find out. As I approached the box office, one window was open and I saw a notice that requested one to push the button for service. It wasn't long until a nice cashier appeared before me and I quietly slipped the tickets under the secured plexiglass window. Without a word, he took my tickets and I waited. Again, I wondered what could be taking so long. He was checking the computer for quite awhile and I was a little nervous. I didn't think I could get into any trouble or anything and he'd never know who I was because on this party day, none of us were in uniform or wearing name tags. Finally, he clicked on the mouse and the printer spit out two more tickets. What in the world? There are no more games. Then he informed me that a credit would be issued to the account upon which the tickets had been purchased. "Of course", I replied, and scribbled a signature on the credit slip. The glimmer of hope had now been dashed, but as it should have been from the beginning, the money was returned to the season ticket holder's account and that's what, by default, is called "Guest Services".

Sunday, September 20, 2009

Today a friend died. We lived next door to each other all during my children's childhood days - 1966 - 1996. Her older children used to babysit for us and we knew them well. When we celebrated their 50th Anniversary, there was no sign that Becky would soon be challenged with ovarian cancer. She didn't know it until it was advanced. We got to visit her ten days ago while she was very ill. We will long remember Becky as an artist using beautiful watercolors, an avid gardener, wife, mother and friend. She adopted me as her sister when she didn't have one and also welcomed Ben as a friend as well. Our hearts go out to her steadfast husband Buck who walked with her all the way as well as their children: Heather, Holly, Craig and Chris. Thank you, Becky. My life has been enriched because of you.

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Well, I was playing with Danika, my 11 year old granddaughter yesterday. I wanted to show her my blog and she wanted to introduce me to a game. She finally saw my blog and I got to see her game. In order for me to play the game with her, I had to sign up on Facebook, something I never intended to do. She did it for me. My life has changed!

Thursday, September 17, 2009

The New Arrival


Okay, so 43 years ago isn't exactly a new arrival, but this is the day I recollect becoming a mother. Happy Birthday, Tim...and thanks for all of the joy you have brought into my life. I love you.

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Creatures large and small - at or around the wedding
















The dance, favor, cake, cousins and hubby Ben (20 years)
















Mr. and Mrs. Tom Gracy


Jennifer and her father, John.


Tom and his mother Linda Gracy


I'd like to add a few notes to my first "blog". First of all, Tom and Jennifer are members of my family. Tom, the groom, is the son of my cousin Linda Gracy and was a frequent guest in our home when he'd come to Sacramento to show his art at the Soloman-Dubnick gallery. And how could I forget to include a description of the ushers shoes. Loved those patent leather black and white shoes! And then there were the flames. Yes, Tom created flames on his shoes to match the ones on the front of his bowling shirt. Very original. When I figure out how to add some photos, I will.

Tom, flanked by his Aunt and Uncles. Uncle Charley escorts bridesmaid down the aisle.


Friday, September 11, 2009

The Wedding and the Zoo

How many times have you attended a wedding, filled with calamities and reported that it was a "real zoo"? I know what you mean. But attending a wedding in the San Francisco Zoo last Sunday was a delightful experience. Early entrance to the zoo allowed us time to check out the animals before the wedding began at 5:30 p.m. We were some of the early arrivals and enjoyed the zebra prancing around from the view from our seats. Several storks were perched along the wedding site and one wondered if they were waiting to be called into service!

Once the wedding began, the animals did not compete for attention and all went well. The groomsmen wore black slacks and black bowling shirts with white verticle stripes while the bride's attendants wore black and white strapless polka dot dresses, iced with what I have been told were shruggers? You know, the little bolero type wraps that just cover what the dress leaves bare? Their full skirts were lifted with bright red crenoline slips and red shoes covered their feet. The marriage performer wore high heels and nylons with seams. When was the last time I saw those? I think one could say this wedding was "Retro" or 50's".

A new twist was observed. It was the blessing of the rings. The attendants formed a circle around the bride and groom and after putting the rings on a ribbon, they passed the rings along to the next attendant after silently thinking words of wisdom or good wishes for the couple. At the end, Tom and Jennifer kissed long enough for me to take four pictures (a long kiss or was my camera set on sports speed?).

The cocktail hour was held outside the "Great Hall". The couples likeness had been drawn on large pieces of paper (probably by Tom, the artist) and a new type of guest book would be created after guests took their turn coloring in the picture of Tom and Jennifer, as they looked in their wedding clothes. Cars from the 50's surrounded their image and at the bottom of the page, one could write their name, where they were from and what they wished for the newlyweds. The child in all of us enjoyed talking to the docents who visited the cocktail hour. They held various animals from the zoo: an armadillo, oppossum, lizzard, baby allegator and a hawk.

The Grand Hall was beautifully decorated and once we picked up our name card, the servers knew what to serve us by the cow, chicken or fish drawn on our name card. The food was wonderful with plenty of wine and champagne to toast the couple. Dancing followed with the bride singing every song to Tom. I don't know when I have seen a happier couple. We stayed for a piece of the unusual cake - bottom layer bore flames and polka dots like their outfits, next layer was striped like a zebra, then came a layer like that of the skin of a giraffe and finally, leopard spots, I believe. By now you get the idea that the animal kingdom is important to this couple. In fact, each table at the reception was labeled with the name of a pet they now or have had. We sat at the "Snowflake" table. The favor for the guests was a small jar of honey with a white label with pink polka dots on the lid and printed with "Jennifer & Tom (with a picture of a bee) Meant to Bee 9-6-09".

We got home via the Golden Gate Bridge since the Oakland Bay Bridge was closed for the weekend and made it home by the bewitching hour. They'll be heading out for Hawaii! Thanks for including us in your delightful and memorable wedding. Congratulations.